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lunatic, liar or Lord?

Long ago, I read that Jesus was either a lunatic, a liar, or Lord of all.

In either capacity, he claimed a mission to save us from the deceiver of this world.

Since his entrance on the world stage, billions and billions have come to believe in him as option three, Lord of all.

If he had indeed been a lunatic or liar, his mission against deception would have been a heinously more evil imposition of a second and more perverse deception in its place.

That’s not the Jesus understood by even lunatics or liars, leaving us only one divine option.

nuance.

This is getting old.

Around this time every year for the last 13 years, I’ve come up with some new way to announce my gain of another year sober. I don’t refer to being clean much anymore because unless you’re clean from the use of drugs, alcohol, or whatever addictive nouns once possessed you, you’re not sober. And to me, sobriety is the bigger gain.

Now while I thank God for the gift of another year and hope to continue the trend until I’m fresh out of years, celebrating birthdays becomes a lot more insignificant whether it’s a year spent on this earth or another spent back in your right mind.

There’s a nuance.

Clean generally refers to the physical aspect of recovery, meaning free from substance use. Sober often encompasses a broader scope, including the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of recovery. It implies a deeper transformation, a new way of living and thinking not just in the absence of a substance but in the presence of life overall.

At Celebrate Recovery meetings, I’m asked what has helped me accrue so many years off Meth and a half-dozen other substances who’d become my best friends for nearly 10 years. The older I get, the more my story changes.

Getting clean and staying clean is entirely dependent on the discovery of something that gets you higher.

For me, it was my three kids and the sudden September 4th, 2011 acknowledgment of a once promising life going nowhere in accord with my faith and values. It took seven felonies and handcuffs but the light came on and sobriety became the engine that promised to lead me on the track where I’d been a mere caboose for so long.

A burning desire to write came next, and I started my LifeMeansSoMuch.com website which is now the repository of over 350 stories about life, living and my philosophical pursuit of real happiness in my faith.

So, 13 years are just around the corner and I expect a bunch of folks will wish me congratulations, all of which have become a little less important and a little more impotent with each passing September. No offense, just the honest truth.

And truth is healthy sobriety.

be smarter than a garden snake.

Woe unto them who call evil good, and good evil.

Isaiah 5:20

Reframing is the oldest trick in the book.

In particular the Bible.

Eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil was reframed to Eve by the serpent as something that would open her eyes, seeing God in his true, selfish form.

As she did then, we still do today.

We so easily fall for the lie. Except now, it’s the media, politicians and our elected leaders who openly deceive us for their gain.

Wake up, be smart, speak out and call out deception in all its forms.

Be smarter than a garden snake.

end game.

The weakness of so many modern Christians is that they feel too much at home in this world.—A.W. Tozer

The sooner we accept that while we are in this world but not of this world, and will be home soon enough, the less likely fear and discouragement will succeed in thwarting our mission.

Still, win our battles, though losing the war is prophesied imminent.

We know how this world ends but we also know, thank God, it was never our home anyway.

ask.

“I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.”

‭‭Luke‬ ‭11‬:‭8‬

Never be reluctant nor ashamed to ask for what you need from those who may be equipped to help.

When you work nonprofit with a deep passion for the people of your mission, make the ask of others without shame. It’s an ask, not a demand, and your love for them remains unchanged by their response.

You are merely sharing needs of others to others for others.

God alone stirs people to action according to His timing, plan and purpose.

But be audacious.

Hell is truth seen too late.

The most unfortunate truth is that the older we get, the narrower our search for purpose becomes.

Age adds experiences that begin to make deeply personal differences much later than they ought.

As years pass, my faith becomes more central to my being and the pursuit of it as the defining “meaning of life” is so much more obvious and clearer well beyond what had been present in my merely curious early years.

Urgency to let others know that time is short and decisions they make now will determine their destination later drives us old men to instruct young men from experience, love and camaraderie to make changes in themselves and in the world while they still can,

narrowing their own search for purpose and meaning.

the ask.

If anything can be learned by working nonprofit it’s that you don’t always have to ask for money when you can ask for something more valuable.

This is Las Vegas with plenty of money and more people able to give more than most cities.

Shame on the notion of the ask as a “necessary evil” when a relentless fight to help those less fortunate needs to succeed.

We consider the ask as a privilege, and not the first nor the last thing we do.

Those who just ask for money may get it and while it’s a good thing, it’s a very incomplete one.

We tell real stories, show real results, and demonstrate change in our community made with a single dollar or a million and we do it in a way that requires no scrutiny but can stand up to the sharpest.

We appeal to the souls of people in ways that prick both hearts and consciences while evidencing purpose, value and integrity.

More than in most cities, Vegas people want and need to believe in something real and to be a real part of it.

Vegas proud and strong, we want to know our time and money will make verifiable change in lives of those needing it most.

Show how you use the money, vet recipients with wisdom, think long-term, and make real community change in exchange for their generosity and Las Vegas gives for all the right reasons.

Join #TeamHopeLink and let us show you the many many ways you can be the difference in our community.

HopeLink of Southern Nevada

not my job.

I set my tolerance bar high on purpose believing I might somehow convince them otherwise and they’d eventually come around.

It took way too long for me to accept the fact that wasn’t my job.

In faith, culture, and politics, some folks are steadfast to fight and die for their convictions in the name of progress for what I consider irrational reasons impervious to arguments for change.

I suppose they believe the same of mine and they would be correct.

The difference is mine are held with vision for conserving what’s proven good for humanity, believing that history is still the wisest teacher in the room and change is only good when subject to its lessons and all are ultimately and essentially matters of life and death.

People are different but finally realizing and accepting that harsh truth remains sadly dissatisfying.

It’s not my job anymore.

Lesson learned.

Thoughts and prayers.

equality?

With all that’s going on these days, I’m not entirely convinced the question is whether we are all indeed equal, but rather, do we actually want and aspire to be?

Hear me out.

We publicly and politically abhor practices that promote differentiation between people while at the same time, behind the scenes, we’re actively differentiating ourselves from one another, climbing ladders from lower rungs onto those higher, more distinguished or better regarded by society.

Like it or not, more measures of success in American culture still lie squarely in the value of being better than, with little to no reward for being equal to. Not better intrinsically but positionally.

The drive to accomplish crosses race, sex and all other classifications.

Those less successful at the climb remain underfoot to the more accomplished climbers in society compelled to prove it with better titles, money, power and prestige afforded by the gains of distance in their earned position from where they once began.

Chances that the efforts of the two groups ever meeting are continually reduced and subsequently, lines between the two become greater and more clearly defined.

Maybe what we really need is a better means of measuring achievement not in light of being relative to that of another, then to inspire, educate, and equip people solely to be better climbers for reasons of personal growth.

Equality may be less about the height attained but more about progress made from where each begins his own journey