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About Don Miller

A lifetime Las Vegas resident and father of three grown children, Don spent 15 years as a licensed psychotherapist and speaker in private and hospital practices. Prior, he was part owner of an award-winning family advertising agency. Having fallen into addiction to crystal methamphetamine several years ago, losing everything to the drug, he has been clean since 9/4/11 and more sober about life with each passing day. The stories and content of this site are the accumulating epiphanies of his journey into sobriety, shared here to inspire others, especially those who remain embroiled in addictive battles of their own. LifeMeansSoMuch, the song title by Chris Rice (and you are highly encouraged to download it on ITunes or YouTube,) is the lyrical inspiration for the content of this site. Don is currently a life coach, author, speaker and manager at a non-profit, HopeLink of Southern Nevada.

A little R&R.

How long will you lie there, you sluggard? When will you get up from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest— and poverty will come on you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man.

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭6‬:‭9‬-‭11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Where did the weekend go ?

More certificates of laziness and procrastination are redeemed in two days than in the other five combined

Here, Proverbs encouages us to be diligent and proactive in the affairs of our lives.

Most in the US are just one or two paychecks away from homelessness.The imagery of poverty coming “like a thief” suggests that neglecting responsibilities can lead to sudden and unexpected consequences.

Hard work and vigilance balanced with healthy amounts of R&R keeps us from falling into financial or personal hardship.

The message is timeless, urging us to opt for taking action rather than succumbing to the temptation of idleness.

My boss.

We all want the same thing in our 9 to 5.

An employer who is honest and above reproach:

The Lord is trustworthy in all he promises and faithful in all he does.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭145‬:‭13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

An employer ready and willing to protect and defend our company mission:

The Lord watches over all who love him, but all the wicked he will destroy.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭145‬:‭20‬ ‭NIV‬‬

An employer who knows his stuff and is compassionate and decisive:

Great is our Lord and mighty in power; his understanding has no limit.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭147‬:‭5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Someone we can trust, who can build a team, purposefully united around a mission:

The Lord delights in those who fear him, who put their hope in his unfailing love.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭147‬:‭11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

They say employees don’t quit their jobs, they quit their bosses.

You’re in great company when you work for Jesus, the creator of your purpose and mission.

He’s now hiring.

Our kids.

Then our sons in their youth will be like well-nurtured plants, and our daughters will be like pillars carved to adorn a palace.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭144‬:‭12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

As parents, our greatest desire above all others is for the success of our children.

When they are launched into this crazy world on their own, youthful and independent, our desire is that they will have gleaned from us all the healthy ingredients sufficient to fuel their own goals and futures.

Very few of us parents can honestly claim to have attained this goal. We remember all our mistakes, our bad examples, and our utter and complete failures.

And we forget that the best learning comes from failing.

The best teaching comes from humility.

The best example comes from experiencing a bad one.

Our children are smart enough to take the good things they need and to leave behind what doesn’t promote their goals or futures.

Raise a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it—Proverbs 22:6

Not necessarily when they’re young, but when they are old. They may rebel as youth, but they will come around to their roots later.

Our kids can distinguish between what were our intentions and our mistakes in teaching them along the way.

Have faith in God to fulfill his purposes for your kids, but don’t lose hope in his timeline to do so.

More than you can imagine

The OG know-it-all.

You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139‬:‭1‬-‭4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

It’s hard to imagine someone who knows every dark corner of your life, yet still loves you.

Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139‬:‭16‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Someone with x-ray vision into your past, present, and future.

When we were just kids, we were amazed how often mom or dad were omniscient like psychics, knowing us better than we knew ourselves.

Parents ourselves, we totally understand the responsibility we have to magically anticipate, protect, and be smarter than a fifth grader for our kids, all because we love them so much.

If you know exactly what I’m talking about, you know exactly how God feels about us.

You matter to God even more than you can imagine.

Soft skills.

How can a young person stay on the path of purity?

By living according to your word.

I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands.

I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭119‬:‭9‬-‭11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

So many refer to themselves as Christians yet have given no priority to the study and capture of Biblical truths.

Their experience of salvation may be genuine but it stopped there.

Hiding God’s word in your heart requires voracious consumption of it.

It’s not like algebra that you study and learn so you can use it maybe once or twice in your life.

The Bible provides instruction for conduct in everything you encounter from this moment up to your last moment.

There are no formulas to memorize but precepts and principles of a worldview ordained by the creator of all. Soft skills if you may.

Soft skills are personal traits and communication abilities that help people succeed. They are transferable across all experiences and interpersonal at the core.

Either you have them or you don’t.

And if you don’t it’s because you haven’t yet valued them for what they truly are: sanctification skills.

Look it up.

Getting saved by Jesus is the most wonderful and cherished moment of your entire existence.

But it’s not the end game.

Knowing Jesus and becoming like him is. Salvation ends where sanctification begins, so get yourself back into the Bible and be voracious.

Read that again.

Praise the Lord. Blessed are those who fear the Lord, who find great delight in his commands.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭112‬:‭1‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Rules make you free.

Read that again.

The rules guiding a civil and functional society ensure freedom, safety and security.

True freedom is not unbridled. Without some restrictions, it’s chaotic, misguided without direction or purpose.

Only people ensured of safety and security and having purpose and direction are those who are truly free.

Commands and laws make it happen.

Where there is law, there is a lawgiver.

Legislatures may create the laws and commands that allow us to live and thrive, but those rules emanate from an even higher level promoting the common good.

We are indeed blessed and need to count and attribute each of them to the Lawgiver, the originator of the common good.

Rules make us free.

They alone won’t save you but they will set you free to be.

Read that again.

Stick to the script.

Even in darkness light dawns for the upright, for those who are gracious and compassionate and righteous.
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭112‬:‭4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

It seemed only fitting for a daylight savings post.

When you wake up today, it will still be dark out, darker than yesterday at this time

But for the upright, gracious, compassionate and righteous the light will again dawn on your dark morning to brighten your path and illuminate your mind.

It matters less what time it is but more what you do with it.

Stick to the script.

Be upright, filled with grace, compassionate to others, and righteous in your faith today and everyday.

It will make more of a difference to others than an outdated, artificial adjustment on your phone.

Hurts, habits & hang ups.

Many times he delivered them, but they were bent on rebellion and they wasted away in their sin.
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭106‬:‭43‬ ‭NIV‬‬

In the recovery world there’s an appeal for all who have become hopeless in relapse: Keep coming back.

Drug and alcohol chemical dependency we have been told is a medical condition, not an issue of will easily recorded as sin. But despite what we’ve been told, people do recover and stay clean and sober. Likewise, there are others who relapse and fail on repeat.

This passage, while not originally penned about addiction, poignantly characterizes the struggle.

All of us fight urges to exercise evil options over better ones.

And honestly, in a meeting you’ll hear that the clear and verifiable truth that people can and do recover was perhaps the most powerful and driving motivation behind the lasting rescue and recovery of the next afflicted.

Personal stories and testimonies are central features of a recovery meeting.

God is the same throughout the human condition whether it’s dealing with an addiction or any other fallen state of man.

He says with open arms: keep coming back.

He is in the business of healing hurts, habits and hang-ups and millions can testify that it is 100% true.

Investments.

Blessed is the one you discipline, Lord, the one you teach from your law;

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭94‬:‭12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

The D word.

In childhood it was a bad thing. As an adult, it’s confirmation that God is still investing in you.

You’re like a profitable account deserving of endless contributions to create a greater and greater value asset.

Learning is life long, which more often than not happens not by doing things right but doing things poorly and experiencing such negative consequences, never to do it again.

Therein lies the blessing.

Even now, just like when we were children, we need instruction that clears a pathway to maturity and creates trust in the teacher and his imparting of divine knowledge of good and evil and the consequences of each.

But the teacher will teach only when invited to your classroom.

Our finite minds are poorly equipped yet too proud to accept or invite instruction.

Live and learn, or better yet, learn and live.

Life is a classroom that produces the best students because the best teacher cares enough to show up every morning to make his investments.

Best of Psalm 90

Some passages need no explanation.

Today’s takeaways and meditations just for you!

Enjoy these top hits of Psalm 90!

A thousand years in your sight are like a day that has just gone by, or like a watch in the night.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭90‬:‭4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭90‬:‭12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭91‬:‭1‬ ‭NIV‬‬

I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭91‬:‭2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭91‬:‭11‬-‭12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭91‬:‭14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

For you make me glad by your deeds, Lord; I sing for joy at what your hands have done. How great are your works, Lord, how profound your thoughts! Senseless people do not know, fools do not understand, that though the wicked spring up like grass and all evildoers flourish, they will be destroyed forever.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭92‬:‭4‬-‭7‬ ‭NIV‬‬