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About Don Miller

A lifetime Las Vegas resident and father of three grown children, Don spent 15 years as a licensed psychotherapist and speaker in private and hospital practices. Prior, he was part owner of an award-winning family advertising agency. Having fallen into addiction to crystal methamphetamine several years ago, losing everything to the drug, he has been clean since 9/4/11 and more sober about life with each passing day. The stories and content of this site are the accumulating epiphanies of his journey into sobriety, shared here to inspire others, especially those who remain embroiled in addictive battles of their own. LifeMeansSoMuch, the song title by Chris Rice (and you are highly encouraged to download it on ITunes or YouTube,) is the lyrical inspiration for the content of this site. Don is currently a life coach, author, speaker and manager at a non-profit, HopeLink of Southern Nevada.

Hardened heart.

Every firstborn son in Egypt will die, from the firstborn son of Pharaoh, who sits on the throne, to the firstborn son of the female slave, who is at her hand mill, and all the firstborn of the cattle as well. There will be loud wailing throughout Egypt—worse than there has ever been or ever will be again.”

‭‭Exodus‬ ‭11‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

The leader of a nation who does not fear God brings consequences upon its people.

In a democratic government, who you elect to lead can pronounce either your life or your death.

History has demonstrated this truth and still does today.

Pharaoh’s continued resistance even in the midst of God’s many demonstrations of power took out an entire generation and crippled Egypt until Pharaoh finally acquiesced. The collateral damage of his hardened heart was devastating.

Now the length of time the Israelite people lived in Egypt was 430 years. At the end of the 430 years, to the very day, all the Lord’s divisions left Egypt.

‭‭Exodus‬ ‭12‬:‭40‬-‭41‬ ‭NIV‬‬

“Let my people go” was never meant as a suggestion but a command. And after all the horrible plagues, this one, with human consequences including a personal loss for Pharaoh, finally made him obedient though still reluctant.

When God speaks as directly and clearly as he did with Pharaoh throughout most of the book of Exodus as he had up to this point, he means business, never to be trivialized as just good advice.

Consequences of continued disbelief are deadly.

A dangerous game.

But when Pharaoh saw that there was relief, he hardened his heart and would not listen to Moses and Aaron, just as the Lord had said.

‭‭Exodus‬ ‭8‬:‭15‬ ‭NIV‬‬

“Lord just get me through this situation and I promise to follow you forever. Amen.”

We’ve all prayed that prayer of desperation before, then reneged on our promise.

Hardened hearts find no place in God’s mercy and empty promises on repeat only take us further and further from redemption.

There’s a little Pharaoh in all of us that cries out to God for relief and rescue—exchanging nothing in return in the end.

It’s a dangerous game, and Pharaoh was masterful at it up until the point he was not.

It’s better to never make a vow than to make one and not keep it.

God is patient and long suffering not for his own sake but for ours. He is always focused on his end game, our salvation and redemption.

And he always wins.

Let that sink in.

This matter of eternity is no game.

Who is the Lord that I should obey Him?

Pharaoh said, “Who is the Lord, that I should obey him and let Israel go? I do not know the Lord and I will not let Israel go.””

‭‭Exodus‬ ‭5‬:‭2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Stubborn would be an understatement.

Those of us who’ve watched Charlton Heston in ‘The 10 Commandments’ from the passenger seats of our living rooms witnessed 2nd hand what followed in awe.

As the miracle of plagues waged on, Pharaoh laughed in the face of God, soon to discover that God always wins.

Not unlike present day deniers among us in increasing numbers who have misplaced themselves as pharaohs and kings of this world, they all will eventually fall and kneel to the God of the universe.

“Who is the Lord that I should obey him?” asks Pharaoh.

FAFO.

Please send someone else.

Meanwhile at the burning bush…

Moses said to the Lord, “Pardon your servant, Lord. I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.” The Lord said to him, “Who gave human beings their mouths? Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.” But Moses said,

Pardon your servant, Lord.

Please send someone else.

‭‭Exodus‬ ‭4‬:‭10‬-‭13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

God can answer prayer in every possible way from here to Hawaii and still you don’t want his solution.

Even after hearing his voice audibly and witnessing his miracles firsthand, Moses resisted.

This really hits home for me and probably for you.

My God, literally what will it take for you to proceed in faith when God offers an answer to your prayer?

Seriously, sometimes we need to pause praying long enough to hear God speaking.

Resistance is futile.

Happy endings.

But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.” And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭50‬:‭19‬-‭21‬ ‭NIV‬‬

They say all’s well that ends well.

After the long and protracted drama of Joseph and his brothers, the story ends with a perspective keen in hindsight, forgiveness, and reunification of the entire family.

But it’s not every story that has a happy ending.

In fact, for so many of us at this time of year, our prayers continue to seek and find those loved ones who may be left behind at the Lord’s return.

Do not abandon your hopes and desires. Set a place at your table readied for the return of the prodigals and the lost who still don’t understand that they need Jesus.

Be ready for a miracle.

Some guys have it all.

Successful at everything…

When his master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord gave him success in everything he did, Joseph found favor in his eyes and became his attendant. Potiphar put him in charge of his household, and he entrusted to his care everything he owned.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭39‬:‭3‬-‭4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

And handsome, too.

Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, and after a while his master’s wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Come to bed with me!

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭39‬:‭6‬-‭7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Some guys have it all. Fortune, fame, women…the perfect man.

The envy of every guy, Joseph had mad skills in everything he did, the trust of his boss, and sex appeal to boot.

And to top it off, incomparable virtue and morals.

I’ve encountered a few of these incredible men in my life. And I mean incredible literally in that it’s hard to believe one man can have the whole package the rest of us only aspire to piecemeal.

Tempering my envy is a truth and conviction that despite what it may seem, no man has it all. No man is perfect except Jesus.

Being enamored with the traits of another isn’t a bad thing except when you misplace your personal standards within them.

Someone out there right now mistakenly views you as the perfect person. It may be hard to believe but it’s true.

The standards we hold and ascribe to are relative and even more importantly, they are reflective of our own shortcomings.

Our standard is to be more like Jesus in every way. One perfect man, one perfect life.

Don’t ever lose sight of this. Your value lies in who you are on your journey right now.

Whose we are.

So when the Midianite merchants came by, his brothers pulled Joseph up out of the cistern and sold him for twenty shekels of silver to the Ishmaelites, who took him to Egypt.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭37‬:‭28‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Jealousy drives people to do crazy stuff to vanquish what they view as competition.

Ironically, jealousy says more about you than the object of your jealousy itself.

To admire and wish obsessively for something merely underscores your own nature of greed and discontent.

When not reigned in, jealousy starts bitter wars all based on the conviction you deserve something more or something better.

Humility is its opposite.

In fact, as sinners we deserve nothing but to be thankful for the generosity of God and his salvation.

But we are competitive by nature. The very nature we are to have abandoned as followers of Christ.

This week of Thanksgiving, let us not frustrate ourselves over who we aren’t or what we don’t have.

Be thankful of WHOSE we are and for what we possess as a result.

Avengers at the door.

All the men who went out of the city gate agreed with Hamor and his son Shechem, and every male in the city was circumcised. Three days later, while all of them were still in pain, two of Jacob’s sons, Simeon and Levi, Dinah’s brothers, took their swords and attacked the unsuspecting city, killing every male.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭34‬:‭24‬-‭25‬ ‭NIV‬‬

No good deed goes unpunished.

Kick ‘em when they’re down.

Haters are gonna hate.

Call it what you will but life isn’t fair and avengers are always at the door.

In this story, Dinah’s brothers successfully avenge the rape of their sister. It was an easy rout. A deceitful plan, but an effective one.

Standing up against evil is rarely this easy.

The takeaway?

There are no rules in war. It’s entirely about finding your advantage against your foe and exploiting it to your victory.

There will be times when being a Christian is less about being loving and more about being smarter than a fifth grader.

Even a “no” would suffice.

May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭24‬:‭14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

There’ve been times I’ve been so desperate to clearly hear the voice of God that even a “No” would have sufficed.

Here is Isaac’s servant wanting to please his master by making the correct choice on his behalf of a wife for him. His prayer seeks to put the odds in his favor, not leaving such an important decision to chance.

We’ve all been there, rolling the dice in hope of making the right choice. It’s a gut wrenching act. If it turns out good, praise be to God. If not, what went wrong?

We trust God to enlighten us in our blind spots and move in faith hoping for the outcome.

Outcomes are overrated.

God rewards trust and faithfulness in ways beyond our comprehension. He sees the big picture when we do not.

While that may sound a lot like bad preaching that offers no real solution to the equation, we can’t command a favorable response of God’s without regarding an unfavorable one as any less divine.

Here is Rebekah; take her and go, and let her become the wife of your master’s son, as the Lord has directed.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭24‬:‭51‬ ‭NIV‬‬

For this servant it appears his strategy worked. But how many times do we beckon supernatural intervention then not accept the outcome?

Too many.

Call on the name of the Lord and trust he will not let you down. He is most honored when trust and faith combine to result in the outcome we need.

Do the right thing and trust God with the results.

If it is meant to be, let it be and rejoice in hearing the voice of God whether in a “yes” or in a “no.”

Faith in, Fear of

Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭22‬:‭2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Abraham’s faith in and fear of God was at the very least unprecedented and at the very most a foreshadowing of God’s sacrifice of His own son Jesus.

Do not lay a hand on the boy,” he said. “Do not do anything to him. Now I know that you fear God, because you have not withheld from me your son, your only son.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭22‬:‭12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

‘Faith in and fear of’ is the radical center of passage for every believer.

Following God is all or nothing if it’s anything at all.

A half-hearted lukewarm commitment is no option yet remains as the central struggle for most of us these days.

As the world worsens and the end approaches, each of us will face our own Mt. Moriah challenge.

God wants your whole heart, mind, and soul.

‘Faith in and fear of’ is given of your own volition and God’s blessings follow.

Because you have done this and have not withheld your son, your only son, I will surely bless you and make your descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and as the sand on the seashore. Your descendants will take possession of the cities of their enemies, and through your offspring all nations on earth will be blessed, because you have obeyed me.

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭22‬:‭15‬-‭18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Earnestly pray for your own Mt. Moriah summit.

A trial is God’s pop quiz to see how we are doing in the school of faith.