Monthly Archives: September 2024

burdens vs. loads

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

‭‭Galatians‬ ‭6‬:‭2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

As a psychotherapist for 15 years, I learned early on the difference between carrying the burdens of others and letting them carry their own loads (Gal 5)

Buildings have walls that carry some weight of the roof but aren’t critical to the task as are load-bearing walls, without which, the structure would collapse.

Likewise, helping someone through a crisis eases their burden when we help bear some of their weight but acknowledge the load-bearing is theirs alone to carry.

People would ask me how I could hear such tragic stories in my therapy office all day and still sleep at night.

This burdens vs loads analogy was key to maintaining my own mental health while still being a helper to my patients.

If you find yourself all consumed when helping a friend through their troubles, knowing which of their weight-bearing walls are within your purview and capacity to carry and which are not might make all the difference for you to continue being an effective helper.

obscurity.

Those people are zealous to win you over, but for no good. What they want is to alienate you from us, so that you may have zeal for them.

‭‭Galatians‬ ‭4‬:‭17‬ ‭NIV‬‬

With belief and faith as the central tenet of Christianity, it comes as no surprise that the strategies formed against us are to obscure truth, to plant seeds of doubt, and to take what is clearly evident and then gaslight us to the contrary.

It’s actually a brilliant strategy, for to sow such confusion then reinforce it through channels, media, and authorities over us, the win is all but staged to convert what was once truth to a lie.

“Conspiracy theories” and unanswered questionings which might otherwise lead to rediscovery of those truths are deemed self-refuting and ridiculous.

And to avoid ridicule, the masses are lulled into consent to believe against what they’d once considered better judgment.

Winning you over, alienating you, and converting your zeal away from Christ to another gospel is the dastardly and insidious plan in action.

“Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain, the almighty Wizard of Oz has spoken!”

Hold fast to Truth as revealed by the One who is truly almighty.

This fight has only begun.

They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised–Romans 1:25

not enough.

I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing!

‭‭Galatians‬ ‭2‬:‭21‬ ‭NIV‬‬

For most, keeping your nose clean, following the rules, and being a good person seems a solid path to whatever lies beyond this life.

Wouldn’t it be great if that’s all it took?

Gaining a righteousness just from observing the law as the Jews did will get you pretty far but not far enough.

That last step has long been a stumbling block but a necessary one for passage into eternal life.

No matter how much you may try, nobody ends up sinless.

Belief that Jesus was the Messiah sent by God to die and resurrect for us as payment for our sins is the final step over the threshold into the acceptance of God who can do anything but tolerate the presence of sin.

Be good and follow your rules, yes, but to understand that faith and belief in Jesus is the final chapter completing the story is a whole new revelation to which the entire new testament testifies.

haves and have nots.

All they asked was that we should continue to remember the poor, the very thing I had been eager to do all along.
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭2‬:‭10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

In all cultures throughout history, there are the haves and the have nots.

The best measures of our humanity and civility are found in how we provide for the needs of others truly unable to adequately provide for themselves.

We are indeed our brother’s keepers (Gen 4) and the poor will always be with us (Matt 26.)

But poverty is no badge to be worn or an excuse for laziness. No matter the extent of their lack, they are always able and expected to contribute something in return if not for the common good then for their own sense of belonging in a caring community (Luke 21)

Everyone needs to be remembered and acknowledged whether their contribution is enormous or in comparison just a speck and even then, without such comparison.

Let’s not also forget that as the haves of this world, we should be “eager” in our quest to provide for the have nots, eagerly driven to find meaningful ways we can make a difference for them.

Don did a 180.

Am I trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭1‬:‭10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Going against the flow has consequences.

But like Paul, so does having a personal encounter with your creator.

The revelation changes your purpose and direction and suddenly you no longer fit the mold or destination of so many in this world.

My email address is dondida180@gmail.com and it was chosen years ago to proclaim to others my own change of heart and direction.

Don did a 180.

The swim against the tide is hard work and exhausting but necessary when God miraculously changes the destination of your life and soul.

I want to know I will someday hear those most pleasing words of all: Well done my good and faithful servant.

Disappointing others along the way in this life is a small price to pay for an eternity. 

the day will come.

The day will come when we check our morning calendars for today or draft an email and give little to no immediate thought to the date in front of us or its historical significance.

Already, this newest generation has moved on to other critical issues and incidents which have formed their own 23 years of life and are likely to affect their next 23 and beyond.

It happens.

The pace of events and changing news cycles is dizzying these days and few are able to keep track of both history and present.

It will be left to a generation of elders who are quickly passing on and into oblivion themselves.

But the day will come when America forgets to mourn and a sad morning that will be when there are no more tears and never forget is forgotten.

the nerve you serve.

That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12‬:‭10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

When others engage against you, when they find your words or actions worthy of arguments or put downs, or when they’re willing to spend their own precious time to subdue you by silencing you, it often means you’ve hit a nerve.

Likewise, if you’ve ever had your conscience suddenly pricked, challenged by the Holy Spirit within you, it’s much the same thing. Our flesh tries to silence the conviction because it’s hit a nerve.

Though through different circumstances, the stricken nerve is determined by whose interests you serve.

The spirit of God alerts us to our weaknesses and vulnerabilities and challenges us to make a defining change or to recalibrate the trajectory we are on.

In either case, striking a nerve is painful.

What you do with that pain is what matters.

Attend to it. Introspect. Accept the challenge it presents and be willing to make a change for the better when your sin or weakness is made plain, evident, and inarguable.

When we are weakest, He is strongest.

the last pick.

The last pick.

I was triggered when my friend turned on the first episode of one of those self-selecting team survival shows when after 15 picks, one person remained alone on the line unselected.

From as early as I can remember, whether among the neighborhood kids or in my schools I was always the last pick.

It does something tragic to the development of a little boy considered a liability when all you want is for someone to believe in you. To choose you. To want you.

This was such a pattern in my developmental history I’m surprised I haven’t shared this story until now.

I’ve never been athletic or gifted with obvious skills and have since counted myself among the freaks and oddities like a misfit toy on Christmas island.

Later in life, to encounter the love and acceptance of a supremely gifted stranger who chose me first to be on His team was literally the answer to my lifelong prayer.

Jesus knew my worth and giftedness and I had finally found a place where I belonged, oddities and all.

We are all MVPs to the God of the universe.

Not a bad trade.

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.”

‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4‬:‭16‬ ‭NIV‬‬

While aging may arrive at our table with sides of illness, fragility, and lots and lots of wrinkles, being up in years serves up vast portions of maturity and wisdom.

Inward growth becomes our senior superpower.

As an elder, I now have greater confidence and clarity of the variety I had always sought when I was a younger man.

Renewal of mind, position and purpose is the commodity we now trade for beauty, agility, and all the passing attributes of youth we once cherished.

When I’m gone, I’ll both leave as a renewed man, and leave my renewal attributes for the world to remember me by.

Not a bad trade for an end game if you ask me.

So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4‬:‭18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Seeing but not believing.

The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.

‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4‬:‭4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Few things are more frustrating than trying to persuade another who will not see your point of view.

‘Will not’ is worse than ‘cannot’ because while they can still see clearly with their eyes, they choose to remain blind to thinking themselves toward a different conclusion.

20/20 vision doesn’t necessarily result in a 20/20 decision.

To be truly open minded happens only when we opt to continue to reason to the observable conclusions of our five senses and subject our findings to moral and ethical standards. And even then, understanding that our internalized morals and ethics are also largely learned early on from other people’s life and experiences and enlightenment to a spiritual dimension purely by being a creation of God.

It’s complicated for sure. But fortunately, we are only responsible for presenting truths, not for the changes and decisions which may result.

Therefore, becoming frustrated is the wrong response.

Just plant your seeds and pray they take root.

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